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I’m a licensed psychotherapist, executive coach, and human systems specialist. I advise high-performing people—including founders, executives, athletes, public figures, couples, and leadership teams—and I’m a Practitioner with Evolution. My work centers around a desire to close the gap between where we are and what we know is possible.

For more than 15 years, I’ve studied transformation through neurobiology, somatic psychology, attachment science, and thousands of hours sitting with people across the spectrum of human challenge and extraordinary achievement. Early in my career, working with highly traumatized people, I saw something fundamental: the patterns we develop to survive eventually become the patterns that limit us when they continue running unconsciously long after they are needed.

I also began to see this same dynamic in myself. I was a high-performing, externally driven achiever—a UC Berkeley graduate, working in strategy and policy, earning two master’s degrees, building a successful therapy practice by 30, and believing that security and love were things to earn. From the outside, I was hitting the marks. Inside, I was physically and emotionally burned out, disconnected from the joy in my life, and unable to create the kind of sustainable, fulfilling intimate relationship I wanted.

I became deeply invested in understanding the most effective mechanisms of change. I studied with extraordinary teachers, mentors, and practitioners while exploring the same patterns in myself and my clients. Over time, I came to understand transformation as something that happens at the intersection of the visible and invisible—the nervous system and behaviors we can observe, alongside subtler forces of attention, energy, perception, influence, tension, flow, and the larger laws shaping the systems around us.

As my work brought me more into relationship with increasingly successful people, one thing became clear: success strategies can function similarly to survival strategies and become the architecture of our limitations. I began applying this understanding to high-performing people in both their closest relationships and the high-performance environments they shape. Successful Relating grew from the power of making these patterns visible and bringing them into alignment with what is possible.

It brings science and alchemy together to explore relating as a core mechanism of human systems: how we relate to ourselves, the influence we are already having, and how we choose to interact with those around us.

The nervous system is an interface between our internal and external worlds, and how we relate is a force of influence—constantly expanding or contracting the capacity of the systems we are part of. When we understand and intentionally work in partnership with these visible and invisible forces, we can improve how we operate, optimize what we build, and expand our capacity to attract and receive the outcomes we want.

I think of our unconscious patterns as a kind of internal code: much of it was written by the past and continues producing outputs whether or not those outputs are aligned with who we are now or where we want to go. When we make that code conscious, we can update it—and as the internal system comes into greater alignment, the way we relate, lead, choose, influence, and respond begins to change too. This is true within an individual nervous system, between two people, and at scale across teams and organizations: aligned systems produce more aligned outcomes.

I’m now deeply grateful to live in Santa Fe with my husband and our dogs, in a life I genuinely could not have imagined before—not only in terms of material and professional success, but, more importantly, in how present, alive, connected, and able to receive it I feel. My own life continues to remind me that personal growth is not separate from practical or professional success; the way we transform internally changes how we meet the world—and what becomes possible within it.